Betty Lou Married Bob in 1952

This coming Tuesday is the 70th anniversary of my parents’ wedding.  If you’ve been reading my posts, you know that I’ve posted a few stories about the events that occurred leading up to their marriage on November 1, 1952.  For those that haven’t been following along this wonderful journey, now you know.  You’ll also want to know that my parents were Robert Joseph “Bob” Landry and Betty Lou Bucklin.  And back in 1952, they were the cutest little couple.

Betty Lou Bucklin married Bob Landry on November 1, 1952, in Lake Charles, Louisiana.

See what I mean?  They’re adorable.  They look so happy, and they were.  I’m pretty sure this was taken on their wedding day.  Their clothes and hair are identical to the photos that were taken in front of the church after their wedding.  My mom is not wearing a white gown that is now much more typical to weddings these days.  They must have had them back then, though.  The one wedding photo I have of my ancestors is for my dad’s Patureau grandparents in 1888.  My great grandmother was wearing a fancy white gown in that photo.

But my mom was much more down to earth than that.  She was not concerned about anything fancy.  Part of that was because she grew up with not very much extra money for anything.  She always seemed to be fine with that, though.  This worked out well for my dad, because he was not a doter.  My mom was low maintenance, but she still wanted some attention.  Their relationship worked.

But their time together as just the two of them was short lived.  Their first child Jodie was born three weeks before their first anniversary.  Their sixth and final child Jamie was born a few months before their 10th anniversary.  But I’m getting ahead of myself.  I wanted to talk about 1952, not 1962.

As I was saying, my mom wore a reddish brown dress suit, while my dad wore a brownish grey suit. It’s difficult to explain the colors.  I have a photo of them on their 2nd anniversary in the same outfits, but I’m not going to post it.  I’m committed to posting only this one photo for this story.  The wedding was at the Immaculate Conception Catholic Church in Lake Charles, Louisiana.  My dad had joined the Air Force earlier that year, so they were married when he came home for leave.  He had been in San Antonio, Texas, but they would set up their first home at Edwards Air Force Base in California.

I’m not sure who all was at the wedding on that day 70 years ago.  Surely their parents were there, though I don’t have any photos to prove that.  In the few photos I have, I only recognize Daddy’s older brother A. J. and his youngest sister Frances.  The wedding reception was at his sister Marie’s house in Lake Charles.  In a letter from my dad’s mom (Germaine Erie Patureau Landry) dated October 1952, she says that they “will have a wedding cake and green punch and coffee for those who like.”  That green punch must be a family thing.  I wonder if it is the same thing that was at my sister Jodie’s wedding in 1973.  It was a homemade affair and the punch was made from lime sherbet and 7-Up.  I always liked it, but green punch doesn’t really sound appetizing.

Now that I’m sitting down to write all of the details of that day, I realize that I don’t have that many details!  I have a blurry photo from the wedding reception and it supposedly shows the wedding cake.  It is difficult to make out the cake.  You’ll have to take my word.  Like I said, I’m only posting one photo!  But I know a lot more details about the rest of their story.  They set up home in California where they had Jodie.  They later moved to Albuquerque, New Mexico, where Rob was born. In 1956 they moved back to Lake Charles where Karen and the rest of us were born.  Al  was born in 1959.  I (Van) joined the group in 1960 the day before their 8th wedding anniversary.  Jamie was born in 1962. 

They had a good long happy life together.  I was a witness to much of it.  I was very fortunate.

 

The Jack of Hearts for Halloween

My mom Betty Lou Bucklin Landry in 2007 with a silhouette that she made of me in 1970.

My idea for the post this week is a little odd.  I came up with the idea when I was getting ready for work this morning.  I thought it was a good idea then, but maybe I was just tired.  Now I’m tired after a long day and don’t feel like coming up with something different.  That just makes me sound old.  I suppose I am, because I’m talking about something that happened to me over 50 years ago.  That’s right.  It was over 50 years ago that I was the Jack of Hearts for Halloween.

Doesn’t that sound fun?  You get to be a character from a deck of cards and everyone knows what it is. Yeah, well I didn’t think it was that fun at the time.  I think it was my mom’s idea.  Or maybe it was a costume that was passed down to me from one of my siblings.  The costume consisted of two large pieces or cardboard – one for the front and one for the back.  It was either painted white or it had white cloth glued to it.  Then a jack of hearts was painted on it. 

That sounds pretty good.  I think the part that I didn’t like about it was that I wore black tights underneath it.  I think that was another idea from my mom.  I just remember not liking the whole thing.  I must not have complained too much and didn’t throw a fit, because I wore it when I went trick or treating.  I was just glad that it was dark outside at the time.  It kind of reminds me of the scene from “A Christmas Story” when the mom insists that Ralphie puts on the rabbit costume that he got from an aunt.

There is no photo to go along with this sad story.  I probably avoided being in any of the photos.  Or maybe there is a photo out there that I’m not aware of.  I don’t think I’ve ever told anyone this story, so if my siblings have a photo of me in the costume, I’ve never reminded them of the event.  Who knows?  Maybe a photo of the Jack of Hearts will show up one day.

But I do have a scan of a drawing that my mom drew of me from around the same time.  Sometimes when we were watching TV or something, my mom would get out her pencil and paper and draw a little sketch of whatever or whoever was around.  This time the subject of the sketch was me.  It’s a nice little sketch of me that I got from my mom a few years ago.  But right now I can’t find the scan or the original sketch, which is extremely aggravating since it is the main photo I wanted to post tonight.  I’ll post it once I set my eyes on it.

In the meantime I’ll post this photo from 2007.  The family got together for Christmas that year as usual.  For some reason my mom brought out the silhouette that she made in 1970 of me.  I’m thinking that the sketch and the silhouette were from around the same time.  I don’t remember seeing the silhouette when we cleaned out my parents’ home in 2016, so I think it has been lost.  At least we have this photo.

What a post – a sad story about a little boy in a sandwich board costume, a sketch that is misplaced, and a blurry photo of my mom with a lost piece of her artwork.  I’m glad I could keep you so well entertained!

Found it!

A Letter From Pee Paw and Banns in 1952

This post is another one in the series leading up to the 70th anniversary of my parents’ marriage.  I didn’t really think this all out ahead of time, I just post one here and there if something comes up.  I wasn’t planning on writing another one before the anniversary of their wedding, but I ran across these items when I was looking for something else.  I don’t even remember what I was looking for.  I think I may have been looking for a photo to add to a gift for a little cousin’s first birthday party.  I never found the photo I had originally thought of, but I found something appropriate.

Letter written on Oct. 13, 1952, to Robert Joseph “Bobby” Landry, Jr.

But when I found this old letter from exactly 70 years ago today, I knew I would have to include it in this week’s post.  When I first started reading it, I thought that it was from my grandmother Germaine Erie Patureau Landry – better known as Mee Maw.  Most of the letters that were from Lake Charles to my dad – Robert Joseph “Bob” or “Pluto” Landry, Jr. – were from his mother or sisters.  As I read the short little sentences – “Rec’d your letter – glad to hear from you… I was off last week – back to work this morning.” – it was a bit different. 

It also had a few references to ball games – “I wish I could have seen the games on TV… L.C. & Sulphur play on Thanksgiving. McNeese surely has a fine team – they are going places.”  I wondered who had written the letter, but Mee Maw liked to watch baseball and I think other sports as well.  There were also references to family members like Aunt Zim and Mildred who had been having medical issues at the time.  Aunt Zim was doing okay and Mildred was doing better.  “All are well at M. T. and Germaine’s.”  M. T. would have been my dad’s sister Marie Therese.  We knew her as Aunt Marie.  Germaine was his other older sister.

I was still wondering who wrote the letter as I got to the last page.  The handwriting reminds me of my dad’s writing, but I knew the letter was to him.  I was pleasantly surprised when the letter was ended with “Will sign off now.  Love from all to you.  I am your Devoted Father – R. J. Landry”  It was from Pee Paw and I don’t remember ever seeing his writing before.  I should have guessed who it was earlier.  Maybe when he talked about watching a series of games and he said, ” I won $5 from Joe Shimimi.”  I’m not sure of that last name, but he must have been a betting man.  My grandmother never mentioned betting money and she also never talked about the beginning of squirrel season.  My grandfather was a hunter and fisherman.

Wedding banns for Robert Joseph Landry, Jr. and Betty Lou Bucklin were published in Lake Charles, Louisiana, on Oct. 19, 1952. Obviously no objections were made.

I had a group of letters that I wasn’t familiar with, so I had to look to see what the other letters were about.  There was a letter from Mee Maw that talked about some of the plans for my parents’ wedding.  Aunt Marie was going to have the wedding cake and reception after the wedding at their house.  While it is an interesting letter to read, I was more excited to see the other side of the letter.  Mee Maw had written the letter on a church bulletin because they had posted the wedding banns for Robert Jos. Landry and Betty Lou Bucklin – mom and dad to me and my siblings.  Their names are on the bottom line on the page.

Wedding banns is an old tradition.  An announcement is read or posted for three weeks in a row at the parish church of the couple intending to get married.  It is to let people know about the approaching marriage and it gives everyone an opportunity to state any objections they have to the marriage.  As my mom would say, “Speak now or forever hold your peaceables.”  When I look through old church documents, I’ve seen wedding banns back in the 18th and 19th centuries.  I don’t know if they still call it that or not.  I just looked it up and I see that the Catholic Church requirement for the banns was removed in 1983, but some places still maintain the tradition.

So Bob and Betty Lou would get married at the Immaculate Conception Church.  It doesn’t give a date, so I guess it wasn’t an open invitation to the wedding.  But it wasn’t far off.  The date quickly approaches.

Alcide ‘Met the Elephant’ – WARNING – Graphic Content

For some reason I was thinking about the other Van Landry out there.  I have a cousin with the same name as mine and I’ve never met him.  Thinking of that led me to thinking about our common ancestor Simon Alcide Joseph Landry.  He was known by the name Alcide.  Not that I ever knew him.  He died before my father was even born.  My dad was Robert Joseph Landry, Jr. and he was known by many people as Bob.  His father, of course, was RJL, Sr.  He was known as Rob. Rob was the son of Alcide.   So when I was thinking of what I would say to the other Van about our common ancestor, I remembered a story I read about Alcide from another cousin Thomas Richey.

Alcide Landry as an adult circa 1890 or so. I wish I had more than this one photo of him.

Thomas Richey (let’s call him TR) actually descends from Alcide’s older brother Trasimond.  I descend from both of the brothers.  TR wrote a book about the experiences of our great great grandfather Trasimond during the Civil War.  Trasimond and Alcide were from southern Louisiana, so they fought for the Confederacy.  The name of the book is “Tirailleurs” and it is about the Acadians of Company H who were mainly from Brusly, Louisiana.  Of course, the main ‘star’ of the book was Trasimond.  But there were several stories about Alcide as well.  I don’t know where TR got all of the amazing details that are in the book.  He quotes old letters, diaries, and other writings from the time.  I’d like to meet him one day.  I’ll be quoting some of his book in this post.

The story I was thinking about occurred in the early morning hours of August 16, 1864, eight miles from the center of Atlanta, Georgia.  Young Alcide was sleeping in the trenches when he was startled awake by the shout of “Attaque!”  It was a trench raid and Alcide grabbed his Bowie knife.  “He looked up to see a Yankee lieutenant with his saber blade crashing toward Alcide’s head.  Alcide raised his arm to protect himself, his knife deflecting the saber stroke into the dirt.  The Yankee officer aimed a pistol in his left hand at the young Rebel private.  Alcide swung the Bowie knife and crushed the Yankee’s left hand.  He then pulled back the knife and plunged it into the Yankee’s belly.”  The knife was buried in the spine of the Federal who slumped forward, dead.

“Alcide stood panting and pale.  Sweat poured into his eyes.  This was his birthday.  He was nineteen years old – and still alive… Alcide had ‘met the elephant.’  He was no longer a new recruit…for the longest time, Alcide stared at the Union officer’s dead face.  He wondered why this poor dead Yankee would want to kill him.  He felt saddened and guilty over the man’s death.”  He reached over and pulled the cap down over the dead Yankee’s eyes and thought, “Meilleur vous que moi.” (Better you than me.)

What an intense story!  I can’t imagine facing such a situation.  We mostly live in a very peaceful time.  But during the Civil War, things could get pretty brutal.  Since I descend from Alcide, I am very pleased with the outcome of the confrontation.  Otherwise, I wouldn’t be here.  Like Alcide, I wonder about the story of the Yankee soldier’s life.  In this book told from the southern perspective, the Yankees are the anonymous others.  It reminds me of ‘Star Trek.’ When those unnamed characters with red shirts beamed down to the dangerous planet with Captain Kirk, you knew they weren’t going to last long.  Sure enough, the next scene would show some unforeseen threat take the life of the forever unknown crew member.

The Yankee soldier that Alcide killed shares that fate.  We don’t know who he was.  I don’t even know where he was from.  Could he have been from Massachusetts, where my mom’s Bucklin family lived for generations?  Or maybe he was from Pennsylvania, where her Phenice line was from?  I don’t think we’ll ever know.  I’m sure he was from a family, though.  There could be some other family historian looking at an old great uncle or cousin in their tree and wondering, “I wonder what ever happened to him?”  Oh, the woes of war.

Trees of My Youth

No, I’m not talking about family trees.  I’m talking about trees – like the ones your find in the forest.  But these are not just any trees, they are trees associated with many memories from when I was young.  The main reason I’m talking about that is because I wanted to post a favorite photo from my childhood.  I actually thought I had posted it before.  But when I searched my postings, I didn’t find it.  I thought I may have posted a photo of the tree from the photo in one of the photos from my snow post from last year, but I didn’t post that one either.

The mimosa tree at 758 Lucy Street in Jennings, Louisiana, in May of 1967.

This is the photo I’m talking about.  Isn’t it great?  It’s a photo of me and two of my siblings in the mimosa tree at our home in Jennings in 1967.  We lived in the yellow house at 758 Lucy Street.  We had moved there in 1964.  Later we would put wood siding on the house, but at this time the house was still yellow.  Not that you can see it in this photo.  At first glance you notice our dog Princess at the base of the tree and me sitting in the tree above her.

But then you look closer and you can see my younger sister Jamie to the right and my older brother Al a little higher up on that same branch.  All six of us kids used to play up in that tree.  Even other kids from the neighborhood played in the tree.  One time we had a few too many people in the tree.  I was on a branch with one of my Minter neighbors and the branch cracked beneath us.

So many memories of that tree.  I remember talking with my brother Rob and his friend Celia Joe under that tree.  I remember my sister Jodie and her friend Pam speaking their secret language under that tree.  Now that I think about it, they may have been speaking pig Latin and I didn’t know what it was yet.  Karen, Jamie, and I (and maybe Al) used to climb up in the tree and pretend that the seed pods were money, so we collected as many as we could.  We were rich!

The Landry family in 1963 in Jennings, Louisiana.

One of my first memories associated with trees is from around 1963.  That’s when we lived out in the country!  Actually we lived just north of the I-10 in Jennings on Highway 26 in a two story house we rented for two years.  On the west property line near the house was a fig tree.  I’m not sure if it is the same fig tree you see in this photo which I have shared before.  But I remember a baby bird falling out of a nest in the tree and someone told me not to touch it.  If I would touch it, the mama bird would smell me on the bird and not want anything to do with her little baby bird anymore.  Something I believed without questioning for the longest time.   Birds are very devoted to their young, even if they do smell of stinky little boys.

I don’t have a photo of one of my favorite trees.  It was a tree my grandfather Bucklin had in his yard.  My grandfather Fred Bucklin was a nurseryman and one of his specialties was grafting.  He did that a lot with citrus trees.  He would graft the better tasting trees onto the hardier root stocks.  The tree that was my favorite was one that had several different citrus fruits on the same tree.  He had grafted parts of a lemon tree, a lime tree, a tangerine tree, and a grapefruit tree all on the same trunk.  I’m not exactly sure of the types of fruit, but I know there were four of them.  So it produced all four different fruits.  I always enjoyed eating those fresh citrus fruits from their trees out in the country in Hathaway.

Another memory that came up this week is associated with trees.  When we moved to Jennings in 1964, the neighbors to the east of us were the Theunissens.  The mother Carol was a fellow 1951 graduate of Hathaway with my mom Betty Lou Bucklin Landry.  They had some large tallow or china ball trees in their back yard.  I have a memory of them having a rope line from one tree to another and we were zip lining across the yard.  It’s a “memory” that I’m not sure is real.  Maybe one of the Theunissens will verify that one way or the other.  I’m very curious.

What I am sure of is that my brother Al and I helped the neighbors on the other side of us – the Hotards – build a clubhouse at the base of their big pine tree in the back yard.  No girls allowed!  I remember climbing that big pine tree, too.  What a mess!  You get that nasty pine sap on your hands and it is so difficult to get it off.  We had a few big oak trees in our yard through the years that I liked to climb as well.  No sap to worry about.  When I was older, I even climbed up there with my little 3-year-old niece Sarah.  We went far higher than we should have, though nothing bad happened. 

Before I go, I thought I’d mention the historic event that happened today.  Queen Elizabeth of England died after over 70 years of reign.  She lived to the ripe old age of 96 – a good long life.  Though I have made fun of devotees of the monarch through the years, I do think she was a respectable person.  She did a lot of positive things for the world. So I tip my hat to her.  And really, when people think back on this day, they are going to remember it as an end of an era because of her death.  Maybe my story about trees will come in a close second?!

A Letter From Home in 1952

Letter from home was received on Aug. 19, 1952.

When you read this post, you’ll see that it is another one about my dad’s side of the family.  This is the third one in a row, in fact.  I usually try to switch back and forth every week.  But last week I just had to post that photo of the Patureau family heirloom.  That was the bed that was brought from France in 1840 and is now in my home.  I finally got it fixed up and ready for viewing and couldn’t wait another week.  In addition to that, I knew that this week I was going to post this letter from August of 1952.  It was written exactly 70 years ago this week.  I’ll just have to believe my maternal relatives will be okay with that.  Besides, I’ve got a really good one planned for next week about my maternal grandmother’s family member.  Just you wait and see!

Page 1 begins on Aug. 16, 1952, and continues on the next day.

So this post is about another event that happened during the year of my parents’ wedding.  I’m pretty sure they got engaged around the beginning of 1952.  Sometime around that they met each other’s parents.  I wrote a post about that a month ago.  Then my dad went off to boot camp for the Air Force in June or July.  I posted a letter that his sister Frances and his mom Erie wrote to him in June of that year.  I never wrote anything about it.  In that letter they talk about Aunt Zim being ill.  I had to look it up to see if she had died that year.  She hadn’t, but her husband Uncle Joe died in June 1952.  That was Pee Paw’s brother.   I don’t know if my dad was able to go to that funeral or not.  I remember him speaking fondly about Uncle Joe and Aunt Zim.

While he was at training at Lackland Air Force Base in San Antonio, he got this letter from his mom.  Her name was Germaine Erie Patureau Landry.  Her friends knew her as Erie.  Her children knew her as Mama.  She was Mee Maw to me and my cousins.  She signs this letter as Mother.  I was looking through my family history stuff the other day and ran across this letter.  On the back of the envelope, it says that it was received August 19, 1952.  Mee Maw says in the letter that she started the letter on a Saturday and finished it on a Sunday.  I looked up an August 1952 calendar online and saw that the corresponding dates were August 16 and 17.  So I decided that I would write the post on the anniversary of the writing of the letter.  So that’s what I’m doing.

Page 2 of letter

In the meantime, last Sunday I heard something on TV that is related to what the letter is about.  The report was about a case of polio in New York.  I’m sure that if any of my cousins read or saw the news about this polio case, they thought about or mentioned our Aunt Mildred.  She contracted polio in the first week of August 1952, she had fever for eight days, and she was completely paralyzed.  According to Mee Maw, “she was the most pitiful sight I have ever seen.  It made us all sick.  I couldn’t eat for three days…”  She was very concerned about her sweet daughter-in-law.

Mildred was married to my dad’s older brother Hubert.  They had an older brother named A. J. and he is mentioned in the letter.  A. J. was married to Margie.  Daddy also had an older sister named Marie.  She is not mentioned in this letter, but she is mentioned in the June letter.  They had recently moved back to Lake Charles, which is where the family lived.  Hubert and Mildred were the first ones to give Mee Maw and Pee Paw grandchildren – and my godmother Shirley never lets any of us forget it.  She is The First after all.   But Mildred needed specialized care, so she was sent to Foundation Hospital in Alexandria.  At night time she was put in an iron lung to help her with breathing so she could gain back some of her strength.  Hubert went up there to be with her.

Page 3 of letter

So Mee Maw and other family members were helping out with their children.  After The First, Hubert and Mildred also had three sons by 1952.  She mentions Kenneth first, saying he is “too cute and says almost anything.”  But more importantly to my dad, little Kenneth would say “Bobbie” when he saw the fishing tackle.  My dad and grandfather liked to fish a lot back then.  Pee Paw was going to have vacation soon and he was going to spend time with A. J. “murdering” the fish.  She mentions that Shirley’s birthday is at the end of the month and we shouldn’t forget it.  Thanks for the reminder, Mee Maw!  She also talks about how Hugh B. is her “little shadow.”  I don’t think she was taking care of Dennis.  He was a newborn at the time.

That August was an eventful time in the life of the family.  Mildred would recover, but her legs would remain weakened by the polio.  She would either walk with assistance from Hubert or use a walker.  My mom was always impressed with the devotion that Hubert had for Mildred.  He would work tirelessly to help her exercise and keep her legs stretched so that she would have the most mobility possible.

My dad would continue with his training, though I’m sure at times he wished he could be with his family.  We know that he was looking forward to getting married later in the year.  He and my mom wrote sweet letters to each other during that time.  It’s nice to have these old letters to give a glimpse into what was going on all those years ago.  I’m glad they saved a few of them.

Pee Paw Was in World War I

Robert Joseph “Rob” Landry, Sr. at Camp Humphreys in Virginia in 1918.

I’ve shared several photos of my paternal grandfather before.  I haven’t shared this one before and that kind of surprises me.  When I think of old photos of my grandfather during World War I, this is the first photo I think of.  Not because it is the best photo of him from that time period, but because it was the one that I was most familiar with when I was a kid.

My dad had this in his collection of old photos.  So when I put together a family photo album when I was in junior high school, this photo was one of the first ones to go into it.  My dad’s father was named Robert Joseph Landry when he was born on January 9, 1893.  His parents were Alcide Landry and Marie Celeste Leveque. 

We’ve looked at the Landry household during the 1900 Census.  That year, Rob was the youngest member of the household at 7 years old.  It also included his parents and his five older siblings – Elie, Seb, Joe, Louie, and Marie Therese.  There was an older sister named Lily that was born in 1870, but she had died in 1889.  That was before Rob was born, so he didn’t know her.  In a sad twist of fate, his sister Marie Therese also died at about the same age in 1909.  She was closest to Pee Paw in age, so he would have been close to her.  He later named his first daughter after her.  Actually, Mee Maw’s mother was Pee Paw’s first cousin and her name was also Marie Therese Landry.  She also died in 1909, so Aunt Marie was probably named for both of them.

But before all of that came to pass, Rob Landry grew up in the Landry household with four older brothers.  I don’t know if any of his brothers were in the military, but his father Alcide had been in the Civil War along with his brother Trasimond.  And even though Rob was interested in baseball and was pretty involved in the sport, he registered for the military on June 5, 1917.  He was stationed at Camp Lee in Virginia according to some of the photos I’ve seen.  I know that he ended up having some hearing loss because of the training with munitions.  I also know that he was at Camp Humphreys in August of 1918.  The war ended not long after that, but I don’t know if Pee Paw was let go because of the loss of hearing or if it was because of the war being over.

Discharge information from 1918.

Oh, look, I found the discharge papers.  There is no mention of any disability, though I know I’ve heard that he had hearing loss as a result of military training.  It also says that he was at Camp Humphreys  in Virginia.  Camp Lee was another camp in Virginia during the Great War, and he may have been at both of them.  I’ve also seen a date of 1919 on some of the photos, but from this document that seems unlikely.  It says that he was discharged in December of 1918.

There’s one more thing.  Have you been able to figure out which one of the soldiers was my Pee Paw?  I probably should have told you from the beginning.  He is the soldier standing on the front row on the far right.  If you don’t know your left from your right, he’s the guy in the front with a smile on his face.

Meeting the Parents in 1952

Betty Lou Bucklin and Bob Landry at the Landry home in Lake Charles, Louisiana, in May of 1952.

Later this year we will honor the 70th anniversary of my parents’ first wedding.   It was their one and only wedding, so don’t think you’ve  missed out on some information.  My mom talked about how they went on a few dates when she first started school.  Then my dad broke it off for a while because they weren’t the same religion.  My mom was a English/Irish/German Methodist and my dad was a Cajun Catholic.  But when Bob Landry realized he couldn’t get Miss Betty Lou Bucklin out of his head, they started dating again.  By the spring semester of 1952 at McNeese State College, they had decided that they were going to get married.

Betty Lou Bucklin in May 1952 in Lake Charles, Louisiana. She turned 19 on the 20th of that month.

One of the things that couples usually do is go back to their childhood homes and meet their partner’s parent or parents.  In their case, all of their parents were alive at that time.  They even took a few photos with some family members at the Landry home.  This must have been when Mama met Mee Maw and Pee Paw.  For those not in the know, that would be Betty Lou Bucklin meeting Erie Patureau Landry and Robert Joseph “Rob” Landry, Sr. at their home in Lake Charles, Louisiana.  I don’t remember these photos when I was growing up.  My mom may have told me that they were from that fateful visit, but I probably wasn’t paying attention.  It’s a good thing she realized this and wrote the information on the back of the photos.  Thanks, Mom.

But I do remember the story she told me about the first time she met the Landry family.  The thing that was the most striking to my mom was the affection that his parents had toward their children.  Her family was a little more staid.  The English culture is more known for having a more reserved manner.  But it was more than that.  When Pee Paw came home from work, he greeted each member of his family with a kiss.  And it was not just the womenfolk. He also greeted his sons with a kiss.  On the lips. 

Marie Therese “Sis” Schafer (my dad’s maternal cousin), Wana Lydwin Landry (my dad’s younger sister), and Betty Lou Bucklin at the Landry home in Lake Charles, Louisiana, in May of 1952.

Now there was nothing wrong with this action, but my mom was definitely not used to it.  Like she would say to me, “I don’t want anyone kissing my lips but my honey!”  Of course her honey was my dad.  I must have heard this story when I was quite young, because I think it might have influenced my own behavior.  I remember discreetly avoiding my Landry aunts who would kiss us kids in greeting.  And we definitely avoided those dreaded kisses from our cousin Tez – she of the bumps.  As I’ve gotten older and have lost those aunts, I sometimes miss those sweet greetings. 

It’s interesting that this was the day that my mom met her future in-laws, but there is not a photo of her with them or of the two couples together.  At least we have the one of mom and dad.  I’ve shared the photo of my mom before, but it is worth sharing again.  It is such a striking photo of her.  I also like the photo of her with Dad’s cousin Sis and his sister Wana.   I asked Sis about the day of the meeting, but she didn’t remember it.  It wasn’t as monumental for her as it was for my mom.

Sadly, we don’t have any photos of the visit to my mom’s parents.  Her parents were Fred Bucklin and Myrtle Phenice Bucklin and they lived in Hathaway, Louisiana.  And again with this story, it is from my mom’s point of view.  The only thing I remember her telling me about was the meal that they had.  I don’t remember what it was that was served.  My grandmother cooked things like chicken-fried steak with white gravy or red beans and sausage.  It was probably something like that.  Something that my mom never fixed because my dad didn’t like them.  I like that kind of food, but we would only have it when Daddy was out of town.

So what happened was this.  When it was time for dinner, my grandmother probably called the family to the table.  I imagine she had tried her best to provide a good meal for her future son-in-law.  But when Bob Landry sat down at the dinner table and looked at the food provided, all he said was, “I can’t eat that.”  He didn’t make up some story about being allergic or something, he just matter of factly said he wasn’t going to eat it.  And he didn’t.  I don’t know what he did for dinner that night.  It was a bit shocking to my mom at the time.  Otherwise you wouldn’t be hearing the story. 

My dad always stood by his behavior and was glad he wasn’t stuck eating something he didn’t like for years to come.  I never heard my grandmother’s view of the story.  It must not have been a deal breaker, because they always seemed to get along fine.  She cooked things he liked from time to time.  She even let him have some of her divinity.

Baby Bobbie Landry

A few weeks ago I posted a photo of my mom as a child.  In that post I said that I couldn’t believe that I had never posted a photo of her as a child before.  The same could be said about my dad.  I’ve posted a few photos of an unidentified  Landry infant where it might have been him.  I usually say that I think it might be him, but the photos do represent the Landry children of that generation.  But I do have a photo – actually there are two of them – that is definitely of my dad.

Robert Joseph Landry, Jr. in 1929 in Lake Charles, Louisiana.

This is Robert Joseph Landry, Jr. in 1929.  He was born on January 31, 1929, in Lake Charles, Louisiana, and I don’t think he is older than a year in this photo.  Before you say anything, just know that this photo has been edited to make it look as good as I am capable at this time.  The photo is not in very good shape.

Actually I don’t even think that what I had to copy it from was a photo print.  I think it may have been photographic paper that had been exposed to light to capture the image, but it was somehow never processed to set the image for a print.  All I know is that there were these two ‘photos’ of my dad as a child in an envelop in the top dresser drawer in my parents’ room when we were growing up.  I remember looking at them from time to time, but my mom always warned me about exposing them to bright light or they would fade more.

As you can see the image has been damaged by the exposure to light.  Somehow it looks like there is a double image on it.  Thankfully that line does not go across my dad’s face in the photo.  His face is actually the clearest part of the photo, so you can see little Bobbie’s face with his pale eyes showing.  My dad had light blue eyes.  He was known as Bobbie when he was a kid.  As he got older, he acquired more names to identify himself – Bob, Pluto, Mr. Landry, Daddy, or Pappy.

But of course I went with Baby Bobbie for the name of the post.  It is a photo of my dad as a child, after all, and there is a ring to the title.  There is also a sense of mystery to the photo.  I wonder what he was peering at so intently all of those years ago?  For many mysteries I come across, I go searching for an answer.  This is not one of those mysteries.

Our Myrtle the Student: Year One

I thought I’d follow up last week’s post about my paternal grandmother in school with the same kind of post about my maternal grandmother.  After I found those photos of my paternal grandmother Erie Patureau at SLI (Southwestern Louisiana Institute in Lafayette), I decided to look for something similar for my maternal grandmother Myrtle Phenice. That’s because I knew that they had both gone to the same school and became teachers after they graduated.  They were not there at the same time, because Erie Patureau was eleven years older than Myrtle Phenice.

First year class of SLI in 1926 includes my grandmother Myrtle Phenice.

So I looked and I found.  There was a scanned copy of the 1926 yearbook from SLI, or L’Acadien as it was called.  On page 54 of the book was a photo of the first-year class.  I’ve looked through the photo and have not been able to pick her out of the group of students.  The class membership certainly increased since the time that Erie was a student!  I know she is in the class, because she is listed in the class a few pages later. (See update below)

When I was looking through these yearbooks, I found it interesting to see other names that I recognize.   In the first-year class Myrtle Phenice is listed on page 58.  In the same class, but on the previous page, is listed Thornwell Fay Landry.  You probably don’t recognize the name, but I do.  I’ve shared a photo of him before, because he is my father’s first cousin.  Their fathers were brothers (Robert Joseph Landry AKA Pee Paw & Louis Joseph Landry AKA Uncle Louie).  He was also Erie’s half first cousin because their mothers were half-sisters (Marie Therese Landry & Clemence Babin AKA Aunt Clem).

Naomi “Sis” Landry on bottom right.

Too bad they didn’t do individual photos for the freshman class.  I would have been excited to see a photo of my Grandma that I haven’t seen before.  They did have individual photos of the upperclassmen.  And who was in the class above them?  None other than our Landry cousin Sis.  I have mentioned her before.  She made a video about Landry family history with my dad in about 1990.  She identifies a lot of family members in some of those old family photos she had.  But her name in the book is shown as her real name Naomi Landry.  She looks pretty stylish in the photo of her.  Not the much older lady I know from the video.  She was the sister of Thornwell Fay.   So even though they were more than twenty years older than my dad, they were still first cousins.  That’s because Pee Paw was the youngest of all of his siblings.

The other person of interest that I found in the yearbook wasn’t a family member.  That’s not entirely accurate.  The person I’m talking about is Paul Edwin Marionneaux.  He was also in the sophomore class, but more importantly he is my 7th cousin.  While that seems like a pretty distant relative, his daughter is a friend of mine and we have common DNA according to 23andMe.  And even though her father is about the same age as my grandmother, she is younger than I am.

When I was growing up, I never imagined all of the connections that the older generations might have had.  Just this yearbook shows that my grandmother’s path crossed some of my dad’s cousins’ paths.  And one of those distant cousins had a daughter that I am friends with now.  Things like this make you say, “It’s a small world.”  I’m sure I’ll find more connections like this as I continue to explore my family’s history.


August 4, 2024 Update

I did it!  I was finally able to recognize Grandma in that yearbook photo!  How did I not see her earlier?  I have been working on editing some other photos of her from her earlier years, so that probably helped me to notice those distinguishing features of her.  Here is the marked up copy to see where she is located.

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