
Harry and Daisy Keys Phenice in Hathaway, Louisiana.
This is a post about the Phenice family. My maternal grandmother was Myrtle Phenice Bucklin. She is my connection to the name. So I thought I would post a photo of her parents. Actually, the photo was the only thing I knew I wanted to have in the story for tonight. Everything else followed in its wake. It’s a photo I only recently acquired from one of my mom’s Phenice cousins. (Thanks, Marilyn!)
The photo is very charming because it has my great grandparents standing front and center in front of their home in their later years. It’s a very symmetric composition, with a window showing on each side and the front door at the center. The top of the roof is cropped off at the top, and their feet just barely made it into the frame. It’s a great old photo. At least the original of it is probably great. The quality of this one isn’t. I hope I’ll be able to improve on that with the help of a sharing relative.
The photo must have been taken around the time that H. C. (Harry Clifton Phenice) and Daisy (Daisy Henrietta Martha Keys) had repeated a tradition in my Phenice family line. They got married on December 27, 1900, in Lake Charles, Louisiana, and I’m thinking this photo is from around 1950 or 1951. They survived to make it through fifty years of marriage. That’s right, they weren’t the first couple to accomplish this in the Phenice family line, and they weren’t the last.
I’ve mentioned this “tradition” before, but I haven’t given the details. I think it’s time to do that. The first Phenice marriage of fifty years or more – that I know of – happened on May 29, 1792, in Hagerstown, Maryland. I’m pretty positive of the connection, but I’m not sure of the spelling of the name. Pretty ironic since Grandma was a stickler for correct spelling and it is my superpower. The document I’ve seen gives the groom’s name as John Archibald Phenicie. He was born in 1765 to Stephen and Ann Finnacy. I don’t know much about them. I don’t know when they were married or how long they lived, so I don’t know if they were part of the tradition.
But John married Margaret Maurer in 1792. She was born in Lancaster County, Pennsylvania, in 1774. They had at least eight children that I can attribute to them, including a son named Daniel born in 1809 in Mercer County, Pennsylvania. John and Margaret both lived until at least 1850, so they were married for 58 years or so. Margaret shows up in the 1850 Census, and her last name is given as Finnessy. John and Margaret are Golden Marriage #1.
Daniel also was shown with the last name of Finnessy in the 1850 Census. I always use the last name Phenice for him, since that is the way his descendants spell the name. There was another Daniel born around the same time and around the same place (born in 1808 in Bedford County, Pennsylvania), but he goes by the last name Phenicie. Our Daniel was already married to Susan Jackson by the time of the 1850 Census. They had gotten married in 1830 or 1831, probably in Somerset County. Susan had been born (in 1806) and reared in Somerset.
Daniel and Susan did not technically make it to the 50-year mark. That’s because Susan did not live quite long enough. She might have made it to the beginning of the 50th year, but the dates are uncertain. I give it to her because I have a letter that she wrote in 1877, and she was all about the family. Daniel and Susan are Golden Marriage #2.
Another person that showed up in that 1850 Census was 6-year-old Samuel Charles Phenice. He would grow up in Mercer, Pennsylvania, and joined the military there to fight for the North in the Civil War in 1864. He was a witness at the Lincoln Assassination the following year. The next year he was married to Cathrine Jane Foster, who was four years younger than him. They had eight children, including Harry Clifton who was born in Butler County, Pennsylvania, in 1874. A few years later the family moved to Nebraska, which is where Samuel and Kate spent the rest of their marriage.
As some of you may remember, tragedy struck in 1920 on the eve of Christmas Eve. Kate had a terrible accident where her clothes caught on fire, and she was seriously injured. She died from the injuries two weeks later. For some reason I’ve always thought of her as dying young. But she lived to be 72 and she had been married for 54 years. She lived about the same amount of time as her mother-in-law Susan had lived, but she had gotten married younger. Samuel and Kate are Golden Marriage #3.
H. C. and Daisy were my mom’s grandparents. H. C. was the only grandfather my mom knew. Her paternal grandfather died before she was born. She seemed to be very fond of old H. C. H.C and Daisy had seven children. Their sons had some long marriages as well. Sylvan was married to Mary for 56 years. Henry and Irma were married for 57 years. Orville was married to Elta for 59 years. Warren and Wilma were married for just short of 54 years. H.C. and Daisy are Golden Marriage #4.
At least Myrtle could say she had the longest lasting marriage between herself and her two sisters. Because if there was a competition between siblings, three of her brothers outdid her. Myrtle Phenice married Fred Bucklin on March 12, 1930, in Raymond, Louisiana. They had five children, including my mom, Betty Lou. They lived most of their lives in Hathaway, Louisiana, but then moved to Jennings for their last few years. When Grandpa died in 1984, they had been married almost 54 years. Myrtle and Fred are Golden Marriage #5.
And finally, we get to my parents. I didn’t realize this post would be so long when I started it. I was just going to write a short little thing about each of the six couples who set up such a stable family foundation for their children and grandchildren. But I didn’t want to leave anyone out. Especially my parents. Betty Lou Bucklin married Bob Landry on November 1, 1952, in Lake Charles, Louisiana. I’m not sure about all of the previous marriage, but I can safely say that my parents had a happy marriage that lasted for 64 years. It was the longest of all the marriages I mentioned, and they definitely were happy with each other. Betty and Bob are Golden Marriage #6.
The tradition continues…